Making time to take care of yourself should always be a priority, and you should never feel bad about it. It’s impossible to pour from an empty cup.
First, let’s introduce the power of Aromatherapy.
Aromatherapy- the usage of aromatic plant extracts and essential oils with claims for improving psychological and physical wellbeing.
Some calming essential oils that I like to use are: lavender (most common), and eucalyptus (for stress-relief/energy boosting). Other scents that are good for anxiety are: ylang ylang, bergamot, rose, frankincense, and vetiver. Find candles, essential oil blends, or incense sticks that has these scents included, and light it the F- up.
Also, it would be a good idea to do some spiritual/aura cleansing by burning sage. Burning sage will help get rid of any negative energies or feelings you may have floating around your room or house. The best sage smudge sticks for cleansing are white sage (most popular), juniper, rosemary, lavender, mugwort, Palo Santo, and cedar. Don’t be surprised if you start sneezing and coughing because you are the negative energy 🙂
This probably should have been the first idea to do. Constant texts, app notifications, phone calls, and emails can get pretty damn annoying. Put your phone on DND, silent, airplane mode, or just turn it off completely. I have gotten into the habit of turning off my app notifications from Facebook, Instagram, etc. and it’s been great for my mental health. I’m less inclined to answer and respond to every DM and comment as soon as it pops up.
Music or Sound Therapy Mixed with Dance Therapy.
This is pretty self explanatory. Find your favorite songs and just dance it out or vibe out and chill. Music has literally saved my life and I don’t know what I would do without it. I love discovering songs that speak to my soul and says everything I feel without me having to say a word. As an alternative, you can also just listen to instrumentals or a nature sounds playlist. Rain sounds are one of my favorites, and I find smooth jazz to be very relaxing. Listening to podcasts or motivational speeches can be an option too.
Do some yoga, stretch, complete a light workout routine, take a walk, go jogging, hiking, biking, get some sun/vitamin d, have sex, do some cleaning/de-cluttering of your space, or play with your pet. You’ll be burning calories and having fun at the same time. I find working out to be a big stress reliever because you’re literally not thinking about any of your problems.
Food is not only essential for our survival but it can boost our moods as well. Cook your favorite meal or order out. Whatever your foods of choice are, make sure it’s something that is filling and nutritional. You can also make a fruit smoothie, pour a glass of wine, drink some water, and/or an herbal tea.
I’ve been loving hot peach tea lately. For a sore throat relief, drop in a cough drop. I wouldn’t recommend drinking coffee or strong liquors as a self care idea because they can alter your brain chemicals, haha or act as a stimulant (caffeine). The goal is to be as relaxed and clear minded as possible.
I find that being near or in water is so healing for me. If you live near a beach, and somewhere that has warm sunny weather all year round, I’m so jealous. I’m definitely someone who is often affected by seasonal depression during the colder months.
Take a shower and/or run a nice warm bubble bath to soak in. You can add in a bath bomb, a few drops of an essential oil, and bath salts. Imagine all your stress is being washed away as the water is running over you.
Do Your Skin Care Routine.
You should be doing this idea on a daily basis anyway but washing your face can be extremely relaxing when you’re not in a rush and can really take your time. It’s also a good excuse to put on a face mask. Go a step further and cut up some cucumber slices to put on your eye lids. The cucumbers can soothe tired eyes, heal eye irritation, and get rid of dark circles.
Dim the lights, and use candle light instead which will create a relaxing ambiance to your room or home. My pink Himalayan salt lamp radiates a beautiful pink/deep orange hue. Himalayan salt is known for having healing properties such as promoting peace, relaxation, feelings of happiness, cleansing and purification, and mental clarity. You can purchase one here.
Challenge / Occupy Your Mind.
Read a book, find a good magazine to browse, do a challenging puzzle, I personally love word search puzzles, you can journal about your day or the week you’ve had, write out a gratitude list of everything you’re grateful for, read a daily devotional/bible reading, speak positive affirmations to yourself, create a vision board of your dream life and goals, and/or watch your favorite show/movie and laugh or cry, whichever you need to do to feel better.
Schedule a Spa Session.
Schedule a full body massage to ease any aches or pains at a local spa, get a revitalizing facial service, acupuncture, body treatments like exfoliation or body wraps, try a new fresh hairstyle, or treat yourself to a manicure and/or a pedicure.
I would love to take a day trip to visit the Sojo Spa Club in New Jersey. It’s a very popular Korean inspired bathhouse like spa with tons of different services. Also, I heard reiki has become a pretty popular service for energy healing/balancing your chakras. You can read up on the 7 different chakras- here.
Plan a Date, or Meet up With a friend.
If you don’t have a date, take yourself out. Make it fun by dressing up, wear your favorite perfume or cologne, take selfies, buy yourself flowers, and/or do a little retail therapy but don’t over do it. I recently started buying myself fresh flowers every once in a while and it honestly makes me feel so good.
Also, you can meet up in person with a friend or a family member that you would like to catch up with. Try to not be on your phone during the outing and just enjoy and take in the moment.
Escape / Vacation.
Sometimes you just have to get away from people to recharge especially if you don’t live alone. Check into a nice local hotel, or go big and book a flight somewhere overseas or in another state.
Solo travel helps you get to know yourself more intimately, and helps you build more confidence. You get to step out of your comfort zone by getting to know new people, new experiences, and different cultures. You can truly rest and be lazy without feeling guilty. When we travel with other people we’re so focused on doing as many excursions as possible instead of just kickin’ back and doing nothing.
Oh, and it’s definitely cost efficient!
Catch Some Zzz’s.
7-8 hours of rest is ideal for adults. It’s essential to get yourself on a healthy sleep schedule. Invest in a sleep mask, blackout curtains, and use a sleep inducing scent in your oil diffuser like Jasmine. 30-45 minutes before you get in bed, try to “whine yourself down” by turning off any electronic distractions like your phone or television. Reading before bed actually makes me very sleepy.
I hope you all enjoyed these self care ideas for when you’re feeling stressed and anxious. I will definitely be using a couple of them now that the fall college semester is getting underway and I’ll be starting a new fulltime job soon. I will try my very best to continue blogging consistently 🙂
Till next time,